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Old 02-28-2012, 11:54 PM
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I must get this off my chest. I don't have anyone to talk to about it but dating this girl has been nothing short of hurting my walk with God.

She's a nice person, but very secular and she's pulled me into things I don't/can't agree with and I've become weak. (My fault, not hers)

Tonight I plan to end the relationship, but I feel sad about it because I like her and she likes me and sadly, we work together which means I have to still see her around a lot.

Any advice, wisdom, counsel?
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Old 02-28-2012, 11:57 PM
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How serious is it? Like going to the movies every now n then or actually seeing each other out of work more than 2x a week?
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Old 02-29-2012, 12:17 AM
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i think you should still try and bring her to Christ ... you breaking up with her might show her you are turning your back on her ... if you truly believe, your will won't grow weaker, but probably stronger ....
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Old 02-29-2012, 03:25 AM
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How serious is it? Like going to the movies every now n then or actually seeing each other out of work more than 2x a week?
Not sure, good question ... we have a connection, but she is really jaded from prior relationships as well. I probably have not been a great witness to her either
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i think you should still try and bring her to Christ ... you breaking up with her might show her you are turning your back on her ... if you truly believe, your will won't grow weaker, but probably stronger ....
You're right ... but I have to be honest with her too and I fear after tonight she won't allow me to see her again
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i think you should still try and bring her to Christ ... you breaking up with her might show her you are turning your back on her ... if you truly believe, your will won't grow weaker, but probably stronger ....
I disagree, RNC. "Missionary dating" is really dangerous & the Bible specifically warns against it:

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14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God.
Vizion, I'm certainly not saying it'll be easy, but take this opportunity to hide yourself in God's arms. Take every pain directly to Him and pour out your heart to Him. Spend time in His Word looking to Him for your comfort. He's the only one who can give you the peace you desire.

And RNC's right: don't turn your back on this girl. Be absolutely upfront with her ("I really like you, but I can't date someone who's not a Christian"). Maybe God has put you in her life to be a witness & this is the catalyst He has chosen. But do not jeopardize your faith for any reason whatsoever.
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Vizion, you get the dunce hat for this one! I know you knew better.What were you thinking playing with fire like that anyway?! No sympathy here dude.
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I disagree, RNC. "Missionary dating" is really dangerous & the Bible specifically warns against it:



Vizion, I'm certainly not saying it'll be easy, but take this opportunity to hide yourself in God's arms. Take every pain directly to Him and pour out your heart to Him. Spend time in His Word looking to Him for your comfort. He's the only one who can give you the peace you desire.

And RNC's right: don't turn your back on this girl. Be absolutely upfront with her ("I really like you, but I can't date someone who's not a Christian"). Maybe God has put you in her life to be a witness & this is the catalyst He has chosen. But do not jeopardize your faith for any reason whatsoever.
Thanks Ben .... I needed to hear that. SIGH - I made a mistake this time
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Vizion, you get the dunce hat for this one! I know you knew better.What were you thinking playing with fire like that anyway?! No sympathy here dude.
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I did know better. I let her beauty captivate me.
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I disagree, RNC. "Missionary dating" is really dangerous & the Bible specifically warns against it:

Vizion, I'm certainly not saying it'll be easy, but take this opportunity to hide yourself in God's arms. Take every pain directly to Him and pour out your heart to Him. Spend time in His Word looking to Him for your comfort. He's the only one who can give you the peace you desire.

And RNC's right: don't turn your back on this girl. Be absolutely upfront with her ("I really like you, but I can't date someone who's not a Christian"). Maybe God has put you in her life to be a witness & this is the catalyst He has chosen. But do not jeopardize your faith for any reason whatsoever.
Such wise counsel!
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