Originally Posted by BamaGrits84
I don't know. I don't think there is a majic number. And I've stood up for them when other people have made comments about it being "too soon". I don't think that's what bothers me. Men and more likely to move on quickly because they often feel the need a woman to run their home or keep the family together. So it's really not the timing to me. It's hard for me to even be in my sister's house. Much less her church seeing her husband get remarried.
I probably will go just so my nephew's don't think I'm one of those people who thinks this is wrong. I want them to respect their stepmother so I think it's important they see me - the person closet to their mom - being supportive.
that's a good thought and all, but i don't think it is gonna happen,
imho----- he's being a stupid, greedy, self centered moron
he's is only setting his family up for heartache and hardship
he needs to focus 100% on his boys and get married when they are 18 and mature self sufficient adults and no longer need him, they need him now more than ever and he is worried about getting married!!!!?!?!?!!
i know it sucks that his wife died, but he has no excuse whatsoever to worry about his needs before his boys' needs, and they need 200% of their daddy, not the 50% leftover from his new marriage, and those boys will NEVER respect that woman, they may treat her with respect, but they won't respect her, but i'll bet they won't even treat her respect when the newness wears off and they get a little hormones from adolescence pulsing through their already traumatized systems
wish him good luck, tell him he'll need it, and i hope the sex is worth putting his boys emotional needs on the back burner