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Old 10-15-2009, 07:34 PM
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We're up to session 4 of our Wednesday night men's group study and Mark and I were talking last night and he thought it would be a good idea to share what we are going over with the other men on the forums. So I'm going to try to summarize the first three chapters of our study real quick here.

First the basic mission statement:
Manhood and masculinity have been under constant attack over the last few decades, primarily because of the rise of Feminism. So, many boys are becoming men with absolutely no idea what it actually means to be a man. Young men are having their masculine traits conditioned out of them as they grow up and they are being taught that aggressiveness, competitiveness and masculinity are evil and must be eliminated. When in actuality, those traits are gifts that GOD has given to men so that we can accomplish His purposes. So the primary mission of Men's Fraternity is to reconnect men with their manhood.

To quickly summarize the three programs:
1. The Quest for Authentic Manhood:
  • Focus: A man's core identity
  • Chief Elements: A man's wounds; The definition of manhood; Overview of manhood issues
  • Major Challenge: The boy in you must die!

2. A Man at Work and at Home:
  • Focus: A man's resposibilities
  • Chief Elements: How a man enjoys his work, success, and relates to his wife
  • Major Challenge: The man in you must step forward!

3. A Man and His World: The Great Adventure:
  • Focus: A man's destiny
  • Chief Elements: Rediscover the adventure of life; Understanding my design; Developing a satisfying life focus
  • Major Challenge: The adventurer in you must live!

We are on part three and the primary goal of this year's Men's Fraternity is:
To help you finish this life with satisfaction and enter the next life with confidence.

Assumptions that Men's Fraternity makes about every man:
1. Our Creator desires for us to live a meaningful adventure.
2. Many men often miss this spirit of adventure in their lives; others lose it somewhere along life's journey.
3. Men need ongoing adventure "to stay alive!"
4. An adventuresome man lives differently than others who blindly plod onward.

Life for a man must be more than responsibility (we are not advocating irresponsibility). Too much responsibility can have disastrous effects on a man's life:
1. It can wear a man out - like that quote from Field of Dreams, "I never knew my dad before life had beaten the dreams out of him."
2. It can pull a man down - which creates unexplained anger, brooding and fearfulness in a man's life.
3. It can set a man up for a serious fall - what's referred to as the "x-games": addicting behavior, pornography, alcohol, drugs, childish regression, etc.

Adventure for a man means finding a live balanced with:
  • A sense of purpose
  • Calling
  • Fit (in synch with life)
  • Fun
  • Energy
  • Destiny

This programs will provide the answer to the three "big hairy questions" that every man asks about his life:
1. Who am I?
I am a man created by GOD.

2. Why am I here?
I am a man commissioned by GOD.

3. Where am I going?
I am a man who will ultimately face GOD.

Finally, we learned about the 4 types of adventures that every man needs:

1. The Family Adventure: to reproduce life in my children.
  • Teammates: a wife
  • Key Words:
    • Understanding
    • Hands on involvement
    • Intimacy
  • Outcome:
    • Legacy
    • Joy
  • Key Scripture:
    • Psalm 127:3-4
    • 3 John 4
    • Proverbs 10:1
2. The Noble Cause Adventure: to fight for a better life - making this world better for others.
  • Teammates: Like-minded partners
  • Key Words:
    • Calling
    • Fit
    • Design
    • Contribution to the World
  • Outcome:
    • Energy
    • Deep Satisfaction
  • Key Scripture:
    • Ephesians 2:10
    • Titus 3:8
    • Acts 20:35
    • Ecclesiastes 3:12
    • 1 Timothy 6:18-19
3. The Man-Sized Adventure: to enjoy life.
  • Teammates: Friends, especially male friends
  • Key Words:
    • Explore
    • Challenge
    • Thrills
  • Outcome:
    • Fun
    • Great Memories
  • Key Scripture:
    • Ecclesiastes 3:22
    • Ecclesiastes 5:18
    • Ecclesiastes 9:9
    • 1 Timothy 6:17
4. The Spiritual Adventure: to experience a spiritual life and have more than this life alone can offer.
  • Teammates: GOD
  • Key Words:
    • Faith
    • Love
    • Worship
    • Follow
  • Outcome:
    • Peace
    • Eternal Life
  • Key Scripture:
    • 1 John 5:11-13
    • John 10:10

Okay, this is the basic summary of the first three sessions. I'll let you all digest that for a bit and I'll come back and post some stuff from session 4 later tonight. You can also check out the Men's Fraternity website: http://www.mensfraternity.com/
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Old 10-15-2009, 08:53 PM
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Interesting post. Some of these are the same concepts I've been working on in my own personnal life .. I'll check the link out.

Like the Ecclesiastes refferences. One of my favorit books in the Bible.
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Thanks for sharing. I'll sit down and give this some time this evening.
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1) Natures first green is Gold, her hardest hue to hold, an early leaf a flower, but only for an hour, then leaf subsides to leaf, eden sank down to grief, dawn goes on to day, nothing Gold can stay

2) I agree

3)

4) I aggree

5) you'll have to define "enjoy life" better then that. Most men I know.."enjoy life" by drinking and smoking far to much, their thrill is in getting sloshed" Thats not enjoyable to me. Besides...Enjoyment often comes from sinful things...and we shouldnt be doing that. I dont really "enjoy" life in terms of some of those key words. Life for me is about overcoming hardship, its not about enjoyment. Thats comes after you die

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1) To quickly summarize the three programs:
1. The Quest for Authentic Manhood:
  • Focus: A man's core identity
  • Chief Elements: A man's wounds; The definition of manhood; Overview of manhood issues
  • Major Challenge: The boy in you must die!

2)
Adventure for a man means finding a live balanced with:
  • A sense of purpose
  • Calling
  • Fit (in synch with life)
  • Fun
  • Energy
  • Destiny

3)
1. The Family Adventure: to reproduce life in my children.
  • Teammates: a wife
  • Key Words:
    • Understanding
    • Hands on involvement
    • Intimacy
  • Outcome:
    • Legacy
    • Joy
  • Key Scripture:
    • Psalm 127:3-4
    • 3 John 4
    • Proverbs 10:1

4)2. The Noble Cause Adventure: to fight for a better life - making this world better for others.
  • Teammates: Like-minded partners
  • Key Words:
    • Calling
    • Fit
    • Design
    • Contribution to the World
  • Outcome:
    • Energy
    • Deep Satisfaction
  • Key Scripture:
    • Ephesians 2:10
    • Titus 3:8
    • Acts 20:35
    • Ecclesiastes 3:12
    • 1 Timothy 6:18-19

5) 3. The Man-Sized Adventure: to enjoy life.
  • Teammates: Friends, especially male friends
  • Key Words:
    • Explore
    • Challenge
    • Thrills
  • Outcome:
    • Fun
    • Great Memories
  • Key Scripture:
    • Ecclesiastes 3:22
    • Ecclesiastes 5:18
    • Ecclesiastes 9:9
    • 1 Timothy 6:17
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Old 10-16-2009, 02:02 AM
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Great Post.

And you are right about boys growing up without the idea of being a man .

For instance Nate me and you i believe had the conversation the other day . You dont see boys working anymore. You were talking about bailing hay and i can remember up until i could get a job in town i was bucking bales every weekend and alot through the week after school.

You dont see boys bucking hay anymore , you dont see them doing anything anymore.
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1) Natures first green is Gold, her hardest hue to hold, an early leaf a flower, but only for an hour, then leaf subsides to leaf, eden sank down to grief, dawn goes on to day, nothing Gold can stay

2) I agree

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4) I aggree

5) you'll have to define "enjoy life" better then that. Most men I know.."enjoy life" by drinking and smoking far to much, their thrill is in getting sloshed" Thats not enjoyable to me. Besides...Enjoyment often comes from sinful things...and we shouldnt be doing that. I dont really "enjoy" life in terms of some of those key words. Life for me is about overcoming hardship, its not about enjoyment. Thats comes after you die
you say that you really dont enjoy life ?
what about your trips to the USA ?...you dont enjoy those ?
i agree with you Dave life sometimes is about overcoming hardship but life is also about enjoying yourself from time to time and no i dont think one has to get sloshed as you put it to actually have fun.

good post Nate....i envy the opportunity you have to sit and discuss things like this with your peers.
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Girls can comment in here, correct NateR?
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Session 4 basically entailed filling out this diagram:


Here's what it all means:

On one end we have our Birth/Design, this is what GOD predestined us to excel at before we even enter this world. It could be natural athletic ability, an ear for music, artistic ability, a head for numbers, whatever.

The first column on the right are our Past Experience. Our pasts are filled with positive and negative experiences and how we view those experiences defines how we interact with the world.

Column 2 is our Present Lifestyle. In the center is our present pursuits, basically where we are right at this moment. This is effected by our current Convictions (stabilizers), meaning the values and principles that we actually live out in our lives, and our Problems (destabilizers). The primary problems that men get caught up in are marital difficulties, a damaged relationship with their children, job related issues, and money related issues.

The third column is our Future Perspectives, basically our plans for the future. These plans are formed by our dreams and GOD's purposes in our lives.

To the right of column three is our Death/Legacy. Legacy meaning how people remember us when we are gone.

Also, since there is an afterlife, death is the beginning of our Eternity/Destiny.

Remember, you are a man who will ultimately face GOD and give an account for your life. So, the wise man will deal with his past and put it behind him, decide his convictions, deal with any present problems in his life and keep his focus on his future, his dreams, and GOD's purposes for his life. Because the goal is not to live a prosperous, comfortable life on this world, the goal is to be able to face GOD at the end of your life with no regrets about wasted abilities or opportunities.

Four summary observations:
1. Knowing my design is critical for understanding and rightly positioning my life.
2. The past is always with us for good or bad.
3. How we "see" and "embrace" the future affects our lives much more than most of us know.
4. The wise adventurer always lives with the end in mind.
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Great Post.

And you are right about boys growing up without the idea of being a man .

For instance Nate me and you i believe had the conversation the other day . You dont see boys working anymore. You were talking about bailing hay and i can remember up until i could get a job in town i was bucking bales every weekend and alot through the week after school.

You dont see boys bucking hay anymore , you dont see them doing anything anymore.
I agree with you. Hate to say that.
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Session 4 basically entailed filling out this diagram:


Here's what it all means:

On one end we have our Birth/Design, this is what GOD predestined us to excel at before we even enter this world. It could be natural athletic ability, an ear for music, artistic ability, a head for numbers, whatever.

The first column on the right are our Past Experience. Our pasts are filled with positive and negative experiences and how we view those experiences defines how we interact with the world.

Column 2 is our Present Lifestyle. In the center is our present pursuits, basically where we are right at this moment. This is effected by our current Convictions (stabilizers), meaning the values and principles that we actually live out in our lives, and our Problems (destabilizers). The primary problems that men get caught up in are marital difficulties, a damaged relationship with their children, job related issues, and money related issues.

The third column is our Future Perspectives, basically our plans for the future. These plans are formed by our dreams and GOD's purposes in our lives.

To the right of column three is our Death/Legacy. Legacy meaning how people remember us when we are gone.

Also, since there is an afterlife, death is the beginning of our Eternity/Destiny.

Remember, you are a man who will ultimately face GOD and give an account for your life. So, the wise man will deal with his past and put it behind him, decide his convictions, deal with any present problems in his life and keep his focus on his future, his dreams, and GOD's purposes for his life. Because the goal is not to live a prosperous, comfortable life on this world, the goal is to be able to face GOD at the end of your life with no regrets about wasted abilities or opportunities.

Four summary observations:
1. Knowing my design is critical for understanding and rightly positioning my life.
2. The past is always with us for good or bad.
3. How we "see" and "embrace" the future affects our lives much more than most of us know.
4. The wise adventurer always lives with the end in mind.
on the destabilizer side in the present lifestlye .
Under the 4 biggest problems . I dont feel i have any of those " i know they are examples" but honestly My marrige is great, i dont think we ever fight , Maybe have a spat over whose gonna do the dishes or who didnt take out the trash but thats as far as it ever goes , no cross words really.
My relationship with my sons is perfect. the best part of my day is when i get home to those 2 boys meeting me att he door , Boone asking about my day and Hank babbling non stop with a smile on his face and throwing in a DADA every now and then lol.
My job ... I go to work with my Dad and my Brother . we have a good time , we set our own hours , the pay is good and we get along . I dont enjoy some of the things the job entails but i enjoy it as a whole and look forward to going to work .
Money ..... Thats a tough one , i dont usually have money problems , i dont have enough by anymeans to just run out and do everything i ever wanted to do , but i have enough when the boys would like to have a little something i can usually get by with it , or when Becky wants to go out to eat somewhere we can usually do that . But im happy , i have learned to live a lifestyle that doesnt require alot of need therefore monitary needs are not great besides the basics.
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