Originally Posted by NateR
That's like saying that sex is a nice term for rape thereby insinuating that all sex is ultimately a form of rape. Any person with a logical mind would understand that not all sex is rape. Likewise, any logical person would understand that not all spanking is beating. Spanking is when a parent uses physical punishment as a form of correction and instruction for their children, motivated out of love. Beating is when a parent simply wants to inflict physical pain on their children, motivated out of anger or as a form of retribution.
Did I say that I got spanked for EVERYTHING I did wrong? No. It wasn't always necessary and I didn't always get spanked. Sometimes the occasional harsh words of rebuke or a simple talking to did the job. Spanking was only used by my parents for acts of willful disobedience. In other words, when I knew that what I was doing was wrong, but chose to do those things anyway.
I aggree with you. I think there is an obvious difference between disciplining a small child by spanking when they do something really bad...and beating a child when its a case of abuse and neglect. I actually think its really easy distinction to make...Spanking for example doesnt even cause bruises if done correctly...its a short sharp slap that simply tells the child that its not alright. Beating and neglect is easy...usually administered by sadistic parents who are intoxicated and arent interested in disciplining, but driven by Temper.
My Parents were never really angry when they spanked me...thats what made it more frightening...they didnt shout at me. They spoke in even tones...it would have been easier if they had shouted and violently hit because thats just temper...but this was more simple administration of a task because I'd been naughty...and more over...I KNEW I'd been naughty.
I was well aware of what I had to do to get spanked...so if I did it...it was my own fault at incuring that punishment. It was used as a last resort so often when I pushed really hard they would warn me that failuire to behave would result in the slipper
I'd usually back down then
To claim that reasonable corperal punishment is in anyway unlawful violation of minors is idiotic...although your comparison to sexual intercourse doesnt quite follow...coz whether we deserved it or not...the child never actually gives consent to being smacked...but the jist is correct....The use of resonable force is not and never should be considered abuse and I reckon in 99 percent of cases its increadibly easy to tell the difference, whether your a parent...or someone who is from social services checking out the parents.
It is legal in this country to discipline your child via corperal punishment. It is no longer legal to discipline Children via Corperal punishment in schools...and I think that also is a mistake...it once was...and school kids got away with far less then they do today. I am all for bringing back the cane in schools, providing their is strict legislation and monitoring of its carrying out. I am all for using Spanking on children between the ages of Toddlers and Puberty also. Prior to that absolutely not, and after that...Goodluck in expecting the child not to smack back
There are better ways of disciplining a teenager...and you shouldnt really be disciplining a toddler except vocally...but young children are naughty and they need a good spanking