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Old 07-29-2011, 06:05 PM
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I tried to take that quiz once to see what my love languages were. It was sad because about 90% of the questions I couldn't even answer for about myself.

If there were a 6th lanaguage for simplicity that would be mine. Don't make things so dang difficult and I'm good.
Ah, so itís your fault. He thinks that what you need is someone to give to, so thatís what heís providing. Try going down the list and demanding stuff, see which ones work for you. Train yourself (and him) to avoid number 6.
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Old 07-29-2011, 06:24 PM
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Iím just saying this from a guyís perspective, if my wife asks for something Iíll do it, but if she doesnít say anything I assume everythingís cool. If you want something to be different, itís better for everyone to come out and say so.
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Old 07-29-2011, 06:56 PM
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Iím just saying this from a guyís perspective, if my wife asks for something Iíll do it, but if she doesnít say anything I assume everythingís cool. If you want something to be different, itís better for everyone to come out and say so.
Saying so doesn't always work.

Picture this: Someone who has quality time as their #1 need. Then they want #2 as service. But they need #1 for 25 hours of the day. And they have so many things under #2 they want done for them that you need 25 hours in a day to do them all. That is a impossible need that someone is expecting another person to fill. Like you said earlier, only I don't think it is they are looking from something from a person that it needed from God. I think these people need to just accept that love doesn't mean someone has to cater to your love languages around the clock. Some people really are needy to the extent that it drives the other person to forget what they even need to feel loved. Then you end up with 1 person who demands way to much to feel loved and one who wants to give up because the impossible is expected. Or so I think.
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Old 07-29-2011, 07:23 PM
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Ugg.. I can't stand needy people.. That would drive me away.........................fast...
ditto!!! my husband is already so needy. always needing me to wash clothes, do dishes, clean house, make his sandwiches etc i couldn't stand it if he were mentally needy.

my brother is an emotional wreck and even cries to my sister in law when he doesn't get attention that he thinks he needs to make him feel good about himself. i'm sorry but when i see him , in my head he's always wearing pink panties. (he's like 6ft 3 in and about 280)
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Old 07-29-2011, 07:25 PM
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ditto!!! my husband is already so needy. always needing me to wash clothes, do dishes, clean house, make his sandwiches etc i couldn't stand it if he were mentally needy.

my brother is an emotional wreck and even cries to my sister in law when he doesn't get attention that he thinks he needs to make him feel good about himself. i'm sorry but when i see him , in my head he's always wearing pink panties. (he's like 6ft 3 in and about 280)
LOL.. I have been told I am unemotional and cold. I just think MEN need to act like men. If I don't sit there nagging to you as a woman->man I can't handle man-->woman. I have no patience..I need to feel he is strong.. Mentally and physically.
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Old 07-29-2011, 07:34 PM