Originally Posted by Bonnie
Hopefully, it was quick, Dave. It sounds like she had a long life. I'm sorry the sisters didn't keep up with each other those thirty years. Sometimes things happen in families and people let time go by before they can make peace with each other. I hope your Nan and her sister were able to do that.
I am in a similar situation with my oldest sister. We haven't had a falling out, but rather she is a very difficult person to get along with. It's sad because she's never married and has no children. She's one of those people who you can be talking to friendly and such and all of a sudden she's barking at you. You're like,
, what happened? I always say she's got a Jekyll and Hyde personality.
Unfortunately, it's not just me either. Her relationship with all of us is like that.
So, I've had to come to grips with the fact that she might die and I'll have to accept the situation as it is. In other words, I don't think there will be resolution for any of us with my sister.
The only saving grace for me is that I know God knows what is in my heart (my love) for her.
I dont know exactly what the argument was about that sent Eileen hurtling out of the family. Nan has said that she was quite a difficult person to get on with because she felt...inadequet
Eileen would always tell everyone that she was Her Fathers favourite Daughter, she also neglected her Mother. She started getting distressed when her Teenaged Son was killed in a Motorbike Accident.
She's never recovered...now she is dead, noone succeeds her
Whereas Her Sister Joan has Children, Grandchildren, and Great Grandchildren...and My Nan has Children and Grandchildren. It appears that was something that Eileen had wanted, and had ruthlessly taken away from her, and she never recovered...
Its so sad. Her life appears to have been swallowed up (at least Nan says 45 years of it...thats the last time she saw Eileen FORTY FIVE YEARS AGO!
) by bitterness, envy, and feelings I imagine of little self worth and great inadequecies.
Nan...the Sister Eileen hasnt seen in nearly half a Century will be Chief Mourner at the Funneral....that just shows you how separated Eileen made herself