It sounds like you're talking about two different things here, Dave. There's a difference in the case of someone bearing false witness against you (lying) and you feeling hurt and resentful, and someone who is resentful because they are being called out on their faults. The Holy Spirit could be moving in Irish Pride to speak up and therefore moving in that person who is being hypocritical. It's in our human nature to resent having our faults pointed out to us especially by another imperfect human, even if they are right.
Maybe the Holy Spirit is convicting us to be honest with ourselves and that's where the struggle lies. Who likes admitting to their faults?