I guess I'd like to know more of the story. Was he dressed as a girl as punishment? Was it a joke? Did the kid mind?
There's a picture of Kelli's nephew on Facebook dressed up as a girl. I think he's 7. His sister dressed him up, put makeup on him, etc. He went along with it because he thought it was funny. I don't think he was being abused or humiliated. He doesn't act feminine normally. He's a regular little boy.
I'd also like to know why the 12 year old girl didn't work out and was separated from her brother to live with a different family. That might give more info than the boy being dressed up.