Originally Posted by NateR
She asked for a biblical perspective, I gave her one. If she had been blameless in this situation, then she could have reported the incident to the police without fear of recrimination. Obviously she was not blameless and so she paid the price for what appears to be rebellion against her parents (based on her own words). The biblical perspective is that she need to accept her own sinfulness before she can ever expect to forgive someone else for their wrongdoing.
Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.
She needs to understand that she is to blame first and foremost and, if she had actually been shot and killed by the robber, then she would have simply received what she deserved in the eyes of GOD. The sooner she understands that, the sooner she can truly forgive this "friend" who betrayed her.
Until then it's probably best to avoid this person.
Again, this is based solely on the vague information provided in this thread so far.
Bamagrits, if you haven't discussed this entire situation with your mother and explained to her everything that you did while you were "hanging out around the wrong folks," then you need to do that before you do anything else.
I never continued to do anything. And that passage is about a church (or maybe nation) completely turning from God. They were "haters of God" (NASB). I made a mistake. My teenage years were more prodigal son like. I don't discount my stupidity. It was there, but not justification for someone to rob me. Not getting the car I wanted for continued stupidity was my "reward".
I did tell my mom a few weeks later. Even then she had no interest in calling the police. That really is another topic all together.
I really don't think I have anything to gain from confronting him and I certainly am not afraid of him. He was a coward then and likely still is. And based on the fact that I've seen him wear a work shirt for a reputable business and with a young child at a family event I would hope he has changed from his ways. I think the forgiveness in my heart is enough. There is nothing I can find in scriptures that says I need to express my forgiveness verbally to him. I think next time I see him I'll just give him a smile - he knows I know what he did to me, I think a smile says "I've forgiven and I'm over it." Of course a pistol permit says "If you ever try to mess with me again you won't get away with it again. You'll be lucky to keep your knee caps." (j/j!)