Originally Posted by BamaGrits84
I put this under Christianity because my final decision will be sought in scriptures so maybe someone of you have some to share, but please comment even if it is just "What I think" or "what I would do". When I was 16 years old I was robbed at gun point by a rather huge and thuggist man. I mean pistol to my head robbed. And I knew I was set up by this guy that was supposed to be my friend. Well last night my husband spots this not a friend after all guy at the ball field my children now play at with a girl and a baby. A few months before I saw this man at Autozone and I was so frozen I didn't even say anything but I've always wanted to confront him. So last night I had a chance and I froze AGAIN. I couldn't figure out what I wanted to say or even if I should. I don't really feel angry and don't hold anything aagainst him, but my husband kind of thought I should tell the guy hey I've been forgiven by God so I forgive you. To me it is just like hey you did something very not cool and so I'm good with never seeing you again kind of thing. My very dear Godly friend was there too and she even offer to go approach the man with me. But I didn't because I knew if I said anything I really wouldn't be getting anything from it, I would be doing it to embarass him and that would make me wrong. But that leads me to this, if I happen to see him again up there (which is likely considering whoever he was watching is in my son's league) and I can catch him away from a large group, should I confront him?
Do you want to tell him you've forgiven him for your benefit or for his? Sometimes taking a close look at our motivation to do things helps put things in perspective.
If I were you I wouldn't worry so much about what you say
to him as much as how you act
towards him. Words are cheap. Sure you could tell him you've forgiven him but why not simply show him?
The next time you see him just show him the love of Christ within you. Be nice. Be friendly. Say "Hi" and tell him his daughter is beautiful..That alone will send a message. Give the Holy Spirit an opportunity to work on this man's heart. The simple act of you being nice to him is a great start. The World expects you to be angry, to hold a grudge and that's probably what he expects as well. I have no doubt that if you're simply nice to him the Holy Spirit will provide the right opportunity for you to share your forgiveness but much more importantly
HIS opportunity for forgiveness through Jesus Christ.
My thoughts anyway........