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Vizion
03-01-2010, 11:13 PM
Just have something on my mind. I'm kind of a joker at work, like to have fun and make people smile. I rib people from time to time, but I never make them feel bad about themselves in doing so (least I don't think i do). I had a situation recently when three co-workers were making "cracks" about me right in front of my desk, and I didn't know how to respond because I was angry so I kept it inside which just made me angrier the more I stewed over it. I think they could even sense it a bit because they lowered their tone, but I was still upset because one of them (someone who is practically family to me) announced to the others that "everyone makes fun of him" :punch:

I would like to think I'm being paranoid is all, but one of the co-workers and I really just don't get along. We have sort of in the past, but not for long. There is some tension whenever she is around.

Anyone been through something like this???
How do you diffuse, dissuade something like this? It is really bothering me.

Mac
03-01-2010, 11:22 PM
I deal it out A TON!! But you gotta be ready to get it back . But there are some lines that can be crossed , and i will say i wont take it from just anyone . Just like i wont go into a group of guys i dont know and start crackin jokes on one of em , thats a good way to get a dentist appointment , But if i know them then its no holds barred.

And the same way if you turn it around . if we are buddies then by all means if i look to long at a fat girl , give me a hard time , then whenever we get to the job , be sure and tell the guys im working with that i was checkin out a biggun LOL . But if its someone that i dont know or doesnt know me that well then ill probably get a little mad ,

J.B.
03-01-2010, 11:24 PM
Just have something on my mind. I'm kind of a joker at work, like to have fun and make people smile. I rib people from time to time, but I never make them feel bad about themselves in doing so (least I don't think i do). I had a situation recently when three co-workers were making "cracks" about me right in front of my desk, and I didn't know how to respond because I was angry so I kept it inside which just made me angrier the more I stewed over it. I think they could even sense it a bit because they lowered their tone, but I was still upset because one of them (someone who is practically family to me) announced to the others that "everyone makes fun of him" :punch:

I would like to think I'm being paranoid is all, but one of the co-workers and I really just don't get along. We have sort of in the past, but not for long. There is some tension whenever she is around.

Anyone been through something like this???
How do you diffuse, dissuade something like this? It is really bothering me.

The idea of ribbing somebody is to upset them, but only to a certain degree.

If they are talking about you behind your back, or trying to hide it from you, that's not ribbing.

If it is something that really bothers you, and you really care about the people, then try talking about it with them. Otherwise, I wouldn't even care if I were you.

Mac
03-01-2010, 11:26 PM
See , Like , if i say that Llamafighters homosexual tendancies make me feel uncomfortable then he knows thats a joke , were buddies , he probably isnt going to take it to bad .

Or if Mark pops up in this thread and says " Hey Mac , you were a little rough on my goats last night" im gonna laugh , tell my wife that Marks picking on me again , and then make fun of Marks bad choice of haircut or lack thereof .

But if someone i dont like comes in and makes those comments i probably wont take it as well.

Miss Foxy
03-01-2010, 11:34 PM
Take it with a grain of salt your better then that!! Don't let anyone get to you in the workplace..:wink:

rearnakedchoke
03-01-2010, 11:42 PM
I deal it out A TON!! But you gotta be ready to get it back . But there are some lines that can be crossed , and i will say i wont take it from just anyone . Just like i wont go into a group of guys i dont know and start crackin jokes on one of em , thats a good way to get a dentist appointment , But if i know them then its no holds barred.

And the same way if you turn it around . if we are buddies then by all means if i look to long at a fat girl , give me a hard time , then whenever we get to the job , be sure and tell the guys im working with that i was checkin out a biggun LOL . But if its someone that i dont know or doesnt know me that well then ill probably get a little mad ,

who could you possibly not like on here???


yeah, i can deal it out real good and take it ... i think i sometimes take it too far with some people who can't take it, i usually can tell by their facial expressions, so i tone it down real quick

J.B.
03-01-2010, 11:47 PM
who could you possibly not like on here???


Sounds to me like you are asking for.......wait for it....... a LIST? :laugh:

Silverback
03-01-2010, 11:55 PM
See , Like , if i say that Llamafighters homosexual tendancies make me feel uncomfortable then he knows thats a joke , were buddies , he probably isnt going to take it to bad .

Or if Mark pops up in this thread and says " Hey Mac , you were a little rough on my goats last night" im gonna laugh , tell my wife that Marks picking on me again , and then make fun of Marks bad choice of haircut or lack thereof .

But if someone i dont like comes in and makes those comments i probably wont take it as well.

Now Mac, you know the truth dont hurt Llamafighters feelings, and you are always rough on Marks goats, and yes Marks haircuts are done with a bowl, heck we all know that, and I will say it before you do, keep you beagle off the streets and it wont have a litter of Silverbacks.:tongue0011::tongue0011::tongue0011:

Mac
03-01-2010, 11:58 PM
Now Mac, you know the truth dont hurt Llamafighters feelings, and you are always rough on Marks goats, and yes Marks haircuts are done with a bowl, heck we all know that, and I will say it before you do, keep you beagle off the streets and it wont have a litter of Silverbacks.:tongue0011::tongue0011::tongue0011:

LOL and then there was Silverback :laugh:

Done with a bowl ? Your apparently under the assumption that his head has even seen a pair of clippers.

Oddtodd76
03-02-2010, 12:03 AM
Hey Mac,

My goat don't want nuthin to do with you!

Vizion
03-02-2010, 12:06 AM
Take it with a grain of salt your better then that!! Don't let anyone get to you in the workplace..:wink:
Thanks Foxy :) Maybe I am overreacting...being dramatic. This thread has helped calm me down for sure.:ashamed:

Still, I feel like I can't go on without talking to my boss, or someone about how its bothering me. We have a bog board meeting on Friday. There are some things that will be shared regarding our progress since the new year on a case. I am worried that my end hasn't been strong as others and I will look bad, thus, invite more mockery. :sad:

Silverback
03-02-2010, 12:09 AM
[/SIZE]Hey Mac,

My goat don't want nuthin to do with you!

Mac is the GOAT MAGNET

Mac
03-02-2010, 12:19 AM
Baa Baa Blacksheep baby!

Silverback
03-02-2010, 12:24 AM
Baa Baa Blacksheep baby!

Mac, is it true once you go Blacksheep, I just got to know.:tongue0011::tongue0011::tongue0011:

Mac
03-02-2010, 12:35 AM
Mac, is it true once you go Blacksheep, I just got to know.:tongue0011::tongue0011::tongue0011:

I believe the saying goes , " Once you go blacksheep, Silverback was there first" sound right ?:laugh::laugh::laugh:

Bonnie
03-02-2010, 12:40 AM
Thanks Foxy :) Maybe I am overreacting...being dramatic. This thread has helped calm me down for sure.:ashamed:

Still, I feel like I can't go on without talking to my boss, or someone about how its bothering me. We have a bog board meeting on Friday. There are some things that will be shared regarding our progress since the new year on a case. I am worried that my end hasn't been strong as others and I will look bad, thus, invite more mockery. :sad:

Sometimes what you can do, Vizion, is take the wind out of their sails by beating them to the punch line. If it's the right situation, show 'em you can take a joke and make fun of yourself, diffuse the situation. If they know they're getting to you, they'll only continue.

I like to kid and joke especially with people I'm comfortable with, but it is something you have to be careful about in the work place.

Silverback
03-02-2010, 12:58 AM
I believe the saying goes , " Once you go blacksheep, Silverback was there first" sound right ?:laugh::laugh::laugh:

Dam you:angry::angry::angry:

Garandshooter
03-02-2010, 01:39 AM
I've absorbed many humorous insults, and given more then I would like to admit, But there is one thing that makes me want to knock some one out! I ABSOLUTELY hate when some one who never served in the military calls me a gay sailor. I told two guys this week the following " I'll take what ever is said about my service from a Marine, Soilder, or Airman with a smile, but a draft dodger like you has no right to insult my service. It happens to be one of the things in life I'm most proud of." I could tell it cut both individuals to the core, and what they got instead of me being insulted, was a deep sense of knowing I will always be a better man for what I've done.
Since we're on this topic, I'll have to admit I wish I could take back some of the comments I've made.

County Mike
03-02-2010, 10:54 AM
I'm all for friendly ribbing, but don't let it go too far. If someone says something that actually bothers you, call them on it. It could be as simple as:

"Hey! Joking around is cool but don't take it too far."

Most people will understand right away and re-think where the line is.

If that doesn't work, then just suck it up you big sissy! :)

TexasRN
03-02-2010, 11:23 AM
Vizion, I've had it happen to me. I just make sure they see that I've overheard them and then just shake my head and say, "That's not cool" and then drop it. Then I pull the one I care about aside and talk to them privately. And again, then it's dropped.
And the rest of ya'll leave the llama alone. He's sensitive.....:laugh:

~Amy

Llamafighter
03-02-2010, 12:00 PM
See , Like , if i say that Llamafighters homosexual tendancies make me feel uncomfortable then he knows thats a joke , were buddies , he probably isnt going to take it to bad .

Or if Mark pops up in this thread and says " Hey Mac , you were a little rough on my goats last night" im gonna laugh , tell my wife that Marks picking on me again , and then make fun of Marks bad choice of haircut or lack thereof .

But if someone i dont like comes in and makes those comments i probably wont take it as well.

Now Mac, you know the truth dont hurt Llamafighters feelings, and you are always rough on Marks goats, and yes Marks haircuts are done with a bowl, heck we all know that, and I will say it before you do, keep you beagle off the streets and it wont have a litter of Silverbacks.:tongue0011::tongue0011::tongue0011:

Or if I told Silver he left his AARP card at The Glory Hole, or that Mac is a heavy humping, chubby chasing, fatty-lover.
:laugh::laugh:
hey this is fun!

Llamafighter
03-02-2010, 12:03 PM
Vizion, I've had it happen to me. I just make sure they see that I've overheard them and then just shake my head and say, "That's not cool" and then drop it. Then I pull the one I care about aside and talk to them privately. And again, then it's dropped.
And the rest of ya'll leave the llama alone. He's sensitive.....:laugh:

~Amy

:laugh::laugh:
you have to catch me on a really bad day to tick me off with a few jokes.

TexasRN
03-02-2010, 03:10 PM
:laugh::laugh:
you have to catch me on a really bad day to tick me off with a few jokes.

Sure, that's why you cry yourself to sleep every night. Yeah, your wife told me all about it.......:tongue0011:


~Amy

Miss Foxy
03-02-2010, 03:26 PM
Thanks Foxy :) Maybe I am overreacting...being dramatic. This thread has helped calm me down for sure.:ashamed:

Still, I feel like I can't go on without talking to my boss, or someone about how its bothering me. We have a bog board meeting on Friday. There are some things that will be shared regarding our progress since the new year on a case. I am worried that my end hasn't been strong as others and I will look bad, thus, invite more mockery. :sad:
Personally speaking I would not consult a higher up unless it's something that is really bad. You don't want to look like the problem employee and lots of time management can care less buddy. Just smile at your haters and let them be your motivators....:wink:

Vizion
03-02-2010, 04:29 PM
Personally speaking I would not consult a higher up unless it's something that is really bad. You don't want to look like the problem employee and lots of time management can care less buddy. Just smile at your haters and let them be your motivators....:wink:Uuugh! I SO wanted to say something to my boss, just a second ago, butthen I read this and am hesitant.

Miss Foxy
03-02-2010, 05:36 PM
Uuugh! I SO wanted to say something to my boss, just a second ago, butthen I read this and am hesitant.Pray for them jerks hon and if it gets intolerable then handle it. Good luck on your decision..

Vizion
03-02-2010, 06:37 PM
Pray for them jerks hon and if it gets intolerable then handle it. Good luck on your decision..So interesting you said that. I felt that someone must have prayed about this. Because after I wrote that last post one of the co-workers and I sat down and had a long talk about things that have been getting us. Then, I approached my boss but asked HIM if he had ever had anything at work trouble him. We sat alone in his office and talked about some experiences he had with troublesome co-workers and what he did to get through it, and I left feeling MUCH better. Thanks for you advice Foxy, I think you were "sent" to advise me that:).

Llamafighter
03-02-2010, 06:40 PM
Sure, that's why you cry yourself to sleep every night. Yeah, your wife told me all about it.......:tongue0011:


~Amy

I cry myself to sleep because I know I'll never be as cool as you are.

TexasRN
03-02-2010, 07:29 PM
I cry myself to sleep because I know I'll never be as cool as you are.

Ahhh, I love the smell of sarcasm.....:laugh: I only pick on ya cuz I like ya.


~Amy

Llamafighter
03-02-2010, 08:28 PM
Ahhh, I love the smell of sarcasm.....:laugh: I only pick on ya cuz I like ya.


~Amy

:laugh::laugh::laugh:
ditto:)

Garandshooter
03-03-2010, 01:00 AM
My boss was my lead man at my last job. Now I'm the lead guy, and he is constantly telling me "It's not what you say, but how you say it" funny, because my mom has said the same thing to my father and I for years.:)

Silverback
03-03-2010, 02:11 AM
Or if I told Silver he left his AARP card at The Glory Hole, or that Mac is a heavy humping, chubby chasing, fatty-lover.
:laugh::laugh:
hey this is fun!

My AARP card, No you didn't go there, ok then the gloves come off, I know I promised not to show this picture of what you sneak around with on Friday nights, but you made me...
http://www.matt-hughes.com/forums/picture.php?albumid=36&pictureid=416

Llamafighter
03-03-2010, 02:14 AM
My AARP card, No you didn't go there, ok then the gloves come off, I know I promised not to show this picture of what you sneak around with on Friday nights, but you made me...
http://www.matt-hughes.com/forums/picture.php?albumid=36&pictureid=416

:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:: laugh:

Oddtodd76
03-03-2010, 02:16 AM
My AARP card, No you didn't go there, ok then the gloves come off, I know I promised not to show this picture of what you sneak around with on Friday nights, but you made me...
http://www.matt-hughes.com/forums/picture.php?albumid=36&pictureid=416

Kinda looks like me if i don't get a haircut!