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Play The Man
08-24-2009, 01:50 AM
On a sleepless night, when you are awake in bed, do you ever contemplate your mortality? I do. I have even thought about my own funeral. If your own death was preceded by a long illness and you had time to plan for your funeral, what scripture readings would you want recited? What hymns would you want sung? Is there an excellent sermon that you have heard that you would want preached at your funeral? Would you want special instruments played, like a harp or bagpipes? What epitaph would you want on your tombstone? I recently had a will drawn up and was thinking of specifying funeral arrangements (I'm not planning to die anytime soon . . . but man knows not his time). This thread is a conversation starter but it also has a selfish motive. If I hear some good ideas, I may take them for my own funeral.

MattHughesRocks
08-24-2009, 03:01 AM
Look out here comes Dave! :scared0011: He's got his funeral planned down to his socks! :laugh:

MattHughesRocks
08-24-2009, 03:03 AM
Oh, as for me personally,I'll be dead so I have no plans nor do I think about it :laugh:

Bonnie
08-24-2009, 03:08 AM
Look out here comes Dave! :scared0011: He's got his funeral planned down to his socks! :laugh:

:laugh:

I'm laughing only because it's true! He does! :laugh:

Dave, do you have any music selections for "Play"? :Whistle:

Chuck
08-24-2009, 03:33 AM
Well.... I'll probably ruffle some feathers but.......... I always thought planning your funeral was selfish... your dead... whatever happens with regards to your funeral has no impact on you but a lot of impact on those left behind.

It's really a last act of selfishness if you ask me....

I've told my wife that my only wish is that she does whatever makes the grieving or remembrance process easier for her and the kids.. it makes no difference to me.


But if given a choice.... I'd like a black and gold casket ;-) With 6 pallbearers... 1 for each..... well you KNOW where I'm going with this :D

MattHughesRocks
08-24-2009, 03:41 AM
Now that you mention it Chuck...it seems like planning ahead would be a caring thing to do for your family.They may be devastated (believe it or not:laugh: ) when you die so perhaps things would be easier for them if they didn't have to decide after the fact . You can have like a family picnic slash plan Dad's funeral day at the park! :w00t:

Well.... I'll probably ruffle some feathers but.......... I always thought planning your funeral was selfish... your dead... whatever happens with regards to your funeral has no impact on you but a lot of impact on those left behind.

It's really a last act of selfishness if you ask me....

I've told my wife that my only wish is that she does whatever makes the grieving or remembrance process easier for her and the kids.. it makes no difference to me.


But if given a choice.... I'd like a black and gold casket ;-) With 6 pallbearers... 1 for each..... well you KNOW where I'm going with this :D

VCURamFan
08-24-2009, 03:59 AM
But if given a choice.... I'd like a black and gold casket ;-) With 6 pallbearers... 1 for each..... well you KNOW where I'm going with this :DI see what you're talking about!! VCU colors & 1 pall-bearer for each NCAA appearance we had in the 20th century!!!:happydancing::happydancing:

Play The Man
08-24-2009, 07:52 AM
Well.... I'll probably ruffle some feathers but.......... I always thought planning your funeral was selfish... your dead... whatever happens with regards to your funeral has no impact on you but a lot of impact on those left behind.

It's really a last act of selfishness if you ask me....

I've told my wife that my only wish is that she does whatever makes the grieving or remembrance process easier for her and the kids.. it makes no difference to me.


But if given a choice.... I'd like a black and gold casket ;-) With 6 pallbearers... 1 for each..... well you KNOW where I'm going with this :D

Previously, I posted a thread in "The Woodshed" entitled "What would you have for your last meal?" It involved death and gallows humor and I put it in "The Woodshed" for light-hearted answers. I put this particular thread in the Christian section because I was hoping for serious Christian answers.

I suppose the way I phrased the question (in an attempt to stimulate discussion) could be viewed as solipsistic; however, what I was trying to clarify with the follow-up questions was: What scripture, hymns, sermons, etc. would you want at your funeral to convey to the people in attendance that there was some hope in this world in the face of death.

I remember an anecdote told by Rev. Rod Rosenbladt about him preaching a funeral sermon at a cemetery near an affluent Southern California suburb (Irvine, if my memory serves me correctly - I think the cemetery was not in the city - the dead are not allowed in Irvine!) In any case, after he preached the funeral service, an organist who worked at the mortuary came up to him and asked, "I have been playing the organ for funerals for many years and I have never heard a minister preach what you preached, what was it that you were preaching?" He replied, "The Gospel, ma'am, it is called the Gospel" The lady had probably been at hundreds of funerals and had never heard the Gospel!

In another thread, there is a discussion about when, and by whom, the Gospel should be preached. I would argue that a funeral is probably the best time to preach the Gospel. Everyone attending the service is struck to the core of their being by the awfulness of death - including the atheists. I can't believe that you would not care that the Gospel message was preached at your own funeral. Perhaps you have a reliable family and know that they would make appropriate choices or perhaps you interpreted the beginning of the discussion thread as referring to the aesthetics of the funeral and burial - the size of the tombstone, the ornateness of the casket, or the laurels bestowed on the deceased (all these things could be objects of selfishness in the soon-to-be deceased)?

Play The Man
08-24-2009, 08:13 AM
Now that you mention it Chuck...it seems like planning ahead would be a caring thing to do for your family.They may be devastated (believe it or not:laugh: ) when you die so perhaps things would be easier for them if they didn't have to decide after the fact . You can have like a family picnic slash plan Dad's funeral day at the park! :w00t:

A couple years back, my father, as the next-of-kin, became responsible for the estate of a childless, widower uncle. The uncle had made some attempt at plans for his estate and funeral; however, he had neglected to have the will signed in the presence of a witness, the lawyer who prepared the will had died, new laws enacted after the will was written caused problems with the bank, and the uncle didn't specify preferences concerning his funeral and burial. I have never seen my Dad as "frazzled" as he was when he was dealing with the whole situation. He seemed to age a couple of years in a few weeks. I think it is important to specify your wishes while you can, if only to lessen the burden on the living. I think another issue is the expense of the funeral. Personally, I am fine being buried in a plain, pine box. I think many survivors are talked into elaborate funerals based upon feelings of guilt. They feel that they are not showing honor or respect to the dead if they don't have an elaborate, expensive funeral. For me, I would rather have a tasteful, but "no-frills" funeral service, which stressed Christ's victory over death in the scripture reading, hymns, and sermon.

adamt
08-24-2009, 12:02 PM
Well.... I'll probably ruffle some feathers but.......... I always thought planning your funeral was selfish... your dead... whatever happens with regards to your funeral has no impact on you but a lot of impact on those left behind.

It's really a last act of selfishness if you ask me....

I've told my wife that my only wish is that she does whatever makes the grieving or remembrance process easier for her and the kids.. it makes no difference to me.


But if given a choice.... I'd like a black and gold casket ;-) With 6 pallbearers... 1 for each..... well you KNOW where I'm going with this :D




I couldn't agree with you more!!!!

I think you're spot on. It's like trying to control things when you're dead!!! Let the people that are left memorialize you. Don't memorialize yourself! If all you're worth is a pine box then sobeit. Then again, if you're a giant butthead, you might want to plan an extravagant funeral cause no one else will.


I hope my funeral is happy. I mean.... I'm going to heaven right?!?!? RIGHT!!! I hope I get cheered on and people are happy for me.


I don't want to be cremated. I always figured God judges that which he hates with fire and burning. And since I am responsible for this vessel for my soul while here on earth I would want to do the best job of stewardship that I could. I don't think burning up the body God entrusted to me would be good stewardship.

cubsfan47
08-24-2009, 12:10 PM
Recently I just had a new set of end of life documents drawn up; at 62 I guess it's more on my mind. Anyway, I discussed my funeral preferences with my executor. I have signed an organ donor card so I want anything which can help the living to be given to them. As for the rest, I am inclined toward cremation. Have not fully decided this yet.

rearnakedchoke
08-24-2009, 01:10 PM
Well.... I'll probably ruffle some feathers but.......... I always thought planning your funeral was selfish... your dead... whatever happens with regards to your funeral has no impact on you but a lot of impact on those left behind.

It's really a last act of selfishness if you ask me....

I've told my wife that my only wish is that she does whatever makes the grieving or remembrance process easier for her and the kids.. it makes no difference to me.


But if given a choice.... I'd like a black and gold casket ;-) With 6 pallbearers... 1 for each..... well you KNOW where I'm going with this :D
no man, it is actually the other way around .. i am gonna have everything taken care of, so my kids don't have to pull money out of their pocket and sit in a funeral home picking out a casket, burial plot all that stuff .. i am gonna prepay for my casket and cremation costs ... or maybe i will pay for a taxidermy man to stuff me with a smile on my face so i can be put on the wall ... that's the plan ..

Chuck
08-24-2009, 02:48 PM
I believe planning your own funeral is selfish. How did you all take that statement and somehow reach the conclusion that there would be no preparation?

I have a will. I have life insurance. The living care for the arrangements of the dead. No amount of "planning" will change that. Once I'm gone however sudden or gradual it might be those left behind will have to co-ordinate my service, arrangements etc. That can all be planned out in advance and given to a funeral director to make it easier but my point...... was simply that I don't think I should do the planning. I'll have input but I would rather my wife and children make arrangements and plans according to what's best for them... not carrying out some "last wishes" I might have.

And to your point PTM.... I would rather focus on sharing Christ to my friends/family/acquaintances with my life..... and not at my death. If I live my life right all those who know me will know who I was and what I stood for.

I can't even count how many times I've been to funerals and heard the Pastor talk about the deceased's commitment to Christ and thought to myself "I never knew they were a Christian!" I have no desire to be that guy.

I guess to further my rant just a tad... I get quite frustrated going to weddings and funerals where a commitment to Christ is put on display because "it's the right thing to do" but no evidence of Christ is found in either the Bride/Groom or deceased. I find it offensive.

Now by all means... back to your thread......

A black and gold casket would be nice... hopefully something upbeat but that's just me thinking of what might make it easier on others... I'd rather they tell me in advance then just guess :wink:

County Mike
08-24-2009, 04:12 PM
I want an old west or a viking funeral. No big expense. Stick me in a pine box and bury me in the yard OR put me in a rowboat, set it on fire and push me out to sea. That oughta do it.

que
08-24-2009, 04:47 PM
i asked my family to cremate me when i die, then pour my ashes into the atlantic ocean. i don't know anyone personally who has been cremated, and no one in my family has ever been cremated, but i like the idea of it. to me, it is the cleanest, cheapest and easiest way of going out. the last thing i want is for my family and friends to see me as a rotting piece of meat. i want their last image of me to be when i was alive. plus, i don't like the long, drawn out process of laying in the ground as maggots eat me while my body slowly decomposes. not that i would care, because i would be dead. but still, i like the idea of quickly being reduced to clean ashes and being scattered into the beautiful ocean. instead of being food for ugly maggots, i can be food for beautiful fish, plankton and ocean wildlife and give them life in return

adamt
08-24-2009, 05:11 PM
I believe planning your own funeral is selfish. How did you all take that statement and somehow reach the conclusion that there would be no preparation?

I have a will. I have life insurance. The living care for the arrangements of the dead. No amount of "planning" will change that. Once I'm gone however sudden or gradual it might be those left behind will have to co-ordinate my service, arrangements etc. That can all be planned out in advance and given to a funeral director to make it easier but my point...... was simply that I don't think I should do the planning. I'll have input but I would rather my wife and children make arrangements and plans according to what's best for them... not carrying out some "last wishes" I might have.

And to your point PTM.... I would rather focus on sharing Christ to my friends/family/acquaintances with my life..... and not at my death. If I live my life right all those who know me will know who I was and what I stood for.

I can't even count how many times I've been to funerals and heard the Pastor talk about the deceased's commitment to Christ and thought to myself "I never knew they were a Christian!" I have no desire to be that guy.

I guess to further my rant just a tad... I get quite frustrated going to weddings and funerals where a commitment to Christ is put on display because "it's the right thing to do" but no evidence of Christ is found in either the Bride/Groom or deceased. I find it offensive.

Now by all means... back to your thread......

A black and gold casket would be nice... hopefully something upbeat but that's just me thinking of what might make it easier on others... I'd rather they tell me in advance then just guess :wink:


preach it brother!!!!

yeah, they think it is gonna come out of their pockets, but isn't whatever you plan for your funeral coming out of their pockets as well. Money they won't inherit? Why don't you give them a bigger inheritance and let them throw you a funeral?


And I can't agree with you more on weddings!!!! I think it should be illegal for anyone other than a virgin to wear white, doesn't white mean she's pure? Especially when it is a remarriage. Well most remarriages, i don't want to group all remarriages. But after someone gets a divorce, can you really take their wedding seriously? I know their are exceptions, but most divorces are not the exception.


While on this tangent I am going to throw in another thing i hate. The people who are graduating from high school and tell all these great plans of college and they never follow through. They collect money from open houses for college but don't graduate. I think they should offer a refund to all the people that gave to them if they don't graduate college or if they get a degree then don't use it, instead coming home and selling insurance or something. They basically got four years of partying in while under the guise of education. Especially the ones that say they are going to bridal school , er um, i mean ... bible college, the church takes a love offering and two years later they decide not to go anymore. Or they go til they find a fiance then quit. Meanwhile podunk farm boys like me don't go to college and we're somewhat looked down on..... well maybe , maybe not, but it seemed i felt a bit left out when i didn't tell them what great things i was off to do. But i have done everything i told them i was gonna do.

Vizion
08-25-2009, 03:06 AM
It's really a last act of selfishness if you ask me.... Waitaminute Chuck. What if you KNEW that your funeral was possibly the only time your relative/friend would hear the message of Jesus? You must understand, funerals are often the ONLY opportunity people will take to grace the inside of a church.

If you designed your funeral around bringing people closer to Jesus Christ through the music, message etc...would you argue that is selfish sir??

Chuck
08-25-2009, 03:29 AM
Waitaminute Chuck. What if you KNEW that your funeral was possibly the only time your relative/friend would hear the message of Jesus? You must understand, funerals are often the ONLY opportunity people will take to grace the inside of a church.

If you designed your funeral around bringing people closer to Jesus Christ through the music, message etc...would you argue that is selfish sir??
Well brother........................................... ............. I have a few thoughts about that :wink:

a) If I KNEW my funeral was the only time a friend/relative would hear the message of Christ.... then I would simply share the gospel with them before I died! :tongue0011:

b) I guess I would stick by my previous response... I'm fairly certain that anybody who knows me even a little knows about my relationship with Christ so I doubt my funeral would be their only exposure :wink:

c) I'm nobody to inhibit the work of the Holy Spirit... me sharing or not sharing the gospel at my funeral won't keep anybody from Heaven..

d) and lastly.... my wife and all 4 of my children are all Christians (one of them literally!!) so I have no doubt that Christ will be shared at my funeral.

Again... my only point was that I believe planning out your own funeral is selfish... that doesn't mean it won't be planned nor does it mean that I wouldn't share an opinion... I'm simply saying that a funeral should be geared more to the needs of the living who are left behind to mourn then to the wants of the deceased.

IMO anyway.

Play The Man
08-25-2009, 05:08 AM
And to your point PTM.... I would rather focus on sharing Christ to my friends/family/acquaintances with my life..... and not at my death. If I live my life right all those who know me will know who I was and what I stood for.


With all due respect, Chuck, your life is not the Gospel. I'm sure you are an honorable man and live an honorable life; however, the Gospel is not about you living your life right. It is not about you at all. It is about the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ in order to save sinners. Especially at funerals, mourners need to be told that Jesus conquered death and that the dead will be raised.

Believe it or not, I am not trying to win an argument. (I will stipulate that you "won" the argument, if you will please read below and listen at the link). I have heard convincing preaching and I am just trying to pass it along.

http://www.whitehorseinn.org/2009/june-2009-commentary.html#0614

What is the gospel? For many Christians today, the gospel is the good news about how I got saved-in other words, my conversion experience. But is that the way that the New Testament uses the term "gospel" or good news? Not at all. The apostles refer to the gospel as a message concerning God's Son, Jesus Christ: God made flesh, fulfilling all righteousness in our place, enduring our sentence on the cross, and being raised on the third day as the source of eternal life. Where are you in that definition? Where am I? Nowhere!!! That's why it's good news. The gospel is the good news about who God is and what he's done in spite of who we are and what we've done. The gospel is good news for us precisely because it isn't about us.

It's striking that we know practically nothing about the personal piety of the apostles. In fact, we know more about Peter's misunderstanding of the gospel and cowardice before the resurrection than we learn about his godliness afterward. The whole focus of the Scriptures is on God's salvation of the ungodly, the helpless, those without any hope of saving themselves.

That's not to say that there's no place for telling friends and neighbors about the difference that Christ has made in our lives or telling them how we came to faith through the gospel, as much as that mysterious work of the Spirit can be identified. But we shouldn't assimilate Christ's story to our own. What happened to us is the result of the gospel, it isn't the gospel. The gospel is what happened to Jesus Christ. It is his life story, not ours. And precisely because of that fact, our lives can be grafted onto his. We die to ourselves and "the show about nothing" and are made alive in Christ by the Spirit.

As we consider how we can be effective witnesses to Christ in a post-Christian culture, it's vital that we recover the clarity and confidence in the gospel as the good news concerning Christ that is, for precisely that reason, good news for all of us

I found the following link incredibly helpful:
http://www.oneplace.com/ministries/The_White_Horse_Inn/archives.asp?bcd=6/14/2009

Play The Man
08-25-2009, 05:40 AM
Again... my only point was that I believe planning out your own funeral is selfish... that doesn't mean it won't be planned nor does it mean that I wouldn't share an opinion... I'm simply saying that a funeral should be geared more to the needs of the living who are left behind to mourn then to the wants of the deceased.

Who says that the wants of the deceased can not be geared to provide for the needs of the living? I, myself, have not planned out my funeral, but I imagine that as I get older, I probably will make some stipulations. For example, I will probably instruct my family to use some of my estate money to purchase Bibles and make them available free to any mourner that wants one. Would that plan be selfish? How is it benefiting me, to the detriment of my neighbor? Chuck, you spouted out an opinion without even waiting for anyone to consider the question and provide reasons concerning why they would make a particular request or plan. You questioned motives before a motive was even offered. You mentioned that your family is all Christian. That is great! However, you were concentrating on your situation without thinking of people in other situations (One could even say that that is the definition of self-centeredness, if one wanted to be unkind). A huge portion of my extended family is Buddhist and a funeral would literally be the only time that they would be open to hearing the Gospel. Please don't attribute selfish motives without hearing people out. It isn't very kind. I think your opinion could have been stated more diplomatically, such as: "I think that planning one's own funeral could easily, if one was not careful, lead to a funeral that did not take the needs of the mourners into consideration."

Vizion
08-25-2009, 06:55 AM
Well brother........................................... ............. I have a few thoughts about that :wink:

a) If I KNEW my funeral was the only time a friend/relative would hear the message of Christ.... then I would simply share the gospel with them before I died! :tongue0011:
What if your illness came on sharply, no time to contact them, or you were too weak, too sick?

b) I guess I would stick by my previous response... I'm fairly certain that anybody who knows me even a little knows about my relationship with Christ so I doubt my funeral would be their only exposure :wink:
That is perhaps your situation, not everyone's, thus your point of it being selfish is well, kind of selfish ain't it?

c) I'm nobody to inhibit the work of the Holy Spirit... me sharing or not sharing the gospel at my funeral won't keep anybody from Heaven.. How on Earth could you know?:laugh: Like I said, it may be one person's best shot at hearing the Gospel, you just never know, do you?

d) and lastly.... my wife and all 4 of my children are all Christians (one of them literally!!) so I have no doubt that Christ will be shared at my funeral.

Again... my only point was that I believe planning out your own funeral is selfish... that doesn't mean it won't be planned nor does it mean that I wouldn't share an opinion... I'm simply saying that a funeral should be geared more to the needs of the living who are left behind to mourn then to the wants of the deceased.
Do people not need to get saved Chuck? Could it not possibly be God's calling on someone's life, at the end of such, to plan for their own funeral in such a fashion as to glorfiy His Holy Word before those who have come to pay their respects? ,

Chuck
08-26-2009, 12:07 AM
Who says that the wants of the deceased can not be geared to provide for the needs of the living?
I'm sure they could. My point..again..was simply that I would prefer to gear my funeral towards what my family wishes and not what I want. Brother when you die by all means do what every you want. Free country bro... it's you funeral. :wink:

I, myself, have not planned out my funeral, but I imagine that as I get older, I probably will make some stipulations. For example, I will probably instruct my family to use some of my estate money to purchase Bibles and make them available free to any mourner that wants one. Would that plan be selfish?
I didn't say every element of a persons funeral was selfish...give away all the free Bibles you want... mighty kind gesture!! But for most people a funeral is one last opportunity for them to do what they want. It's normally geared at the wants of the deceased. I think it should be geared at the needs of those left behind. We can disagree. It'll be ok... really...

How is it benefiting me, to the detriment of my neighbor?
It's not. Look up... in the blue there... I answered this :wink:

Chuck, you spouted out an opinion without even waiting for anyone to consider the question and provide reasons concerning why they would make a particular request or plan.
Was there some rules to responding to your thread I wasn't aware of our are you just upset because you didn't get the answers you were hoping for? Didn't you ask for opinions? This is still an open forum right? Where we're all welcome to post in various threads... share our thoughts, opinions etc? Do you know something I don't?

You questioned motives before a motive was even offered.
I didn't question anything. I made a statement. You stated that part of your reason for starting the thread was to start conversation. It's started... and.... you're welcome.

You mentioned that your family is all Christian. That is great! However, you were concentrating on your situation without thinking of people in other situations
Of course I was concentrating on my situation that's the "situation" I was talking about.. I really don't care about other people's situations... they can do whatever they want with their funeral.


(One could even say that that is the definition of self-centeredness, if one wanted to be unkind).
One can say whatever the heck One wants....we're all welcome to our own opinion.. or one's own opinion I guess.

A huge portion of my extended family is Buddhist and a funeral would literally be the only time that they would be open to hearing the Gospel. Please don't attribute selfish motives without hearing people out. It isn't very kind.
Did you even read my posts??? Why would you share the Gospel at your funeral? Because your extended Buddhist family NEEDS to hear it... exactly my point...put the needs of the living (your family) before the wants of the deceased.. if they happen to be the same thing all the better!!!

I think your opinion could have been stated more diplomatically, such as: "I think that planning one's own funeral could easily, if one was not careful, lead to a funeral that did not take the needs of the mourners into consideration."
Um yeah... probably not though.. that's a little too wordy for me.. that's more of a Dave answer.
Most people when planning their funeral tend to think about themselves... they pick out songs they like, flowers they like etc... they make it all about them... they think it's their last "hurrah"... I think that's selfish. YOU don't have to. You can think anything you want... it's a big world.. there is room in it for more then one opinion.

Chuck
08-26-2009, 12:16 AM
,

This is what happens when you respond to a quoted quote!!! When I quote you...nada...zip...zilch.... :laugh:

I was never talking about sharing Christ at funerals... I was talking about the planning process.

Like I stated I'm a Christian as is my wife and all 4 of my children... I have no doubt that Christ will be shared at my funeral.

But I would state again that I don't think our actions can derail God's will. If I were to choose not to share the gospel at my funeral I don't think it would impact the eternal salvation of anybody in attendance. I think God's sovereignty is bigger then my actions.

Vizion
08-26-2009, 01:30 AM
This is what happens when you respond to a quoted quote!!! When I quote you...nada...zip...zilch.... :laugh:

I was never talking about sharing Christ at funerals... I was talking about the planning process.

Like I stated I'm a Christian as is my wife and all 4 of my children... I have no doubt that Christ will be shared at my funeral.

But I would state again that I don't think our actions can derail God's will. If I were to choose not to share the gospel at my funeral I don't think it would impact the eternal salvation of anybody in attendance. I think God's sovereignty is bigger then my actions.s'alright Chuck, I just kicked your fanny is all :wink:

Chuck
08-26-2009, 02:41 AM
s'alright Chuck, I just kicked your fanny is all :wink:

Fair Enough :D

I didn't know you could get your foot that high!!!

Play The Man
08-26-2009, 07:42 AM
Most people when planning their funeral tend to think about themselves... they pick out songs they like, flowers they like etc... they make it all about them... they think it's their last "hurrah"... I think that's selfish. YOU don't have to. You can think anything you want... it's a big world.. there is room in it for more then one opinion.


"Selfish" is an inflammatory word and I was hoping you would explain and qualify your opinion. You did that above. Thank you. We're all on the same team here.:) I was just trying to get you to dial down the setting on your flamethrower from the "Extra crispy" level to "Golden brown marshmallow perfect for S'mores" setting.:flamed:

rearnakedchoke
08-26-2009, 12:50 PM
Most people when planning their funeral tend to think about themselves... they pick out songs they like, flowers they like etc... they make it all about them... they think it's their last "hurrah"... I think that's selfish. YOU don't have to. You can think anything you want... it's a big world.. there is room in it for more then one opinion.
k .. i misunderstood you ... i won't plan all that junk, but i till pay for everything in advance (unless i die suddenly .. LOL) ... i will just write in my wil that i want a funeral like pac .. "bury me smilin, with g's in my pocket, have a party at my funeral, let every rapper rock it"

Chuck
08-26-2009, 01:35 PM
"Selfish" is an inflammatory word and I was hoping you would explain and qualify your opinion. You did that above. Thank you. We're all on the same team here.:) I was just trying to get you to dial down the setting on your flamethrower from the "Extra crispy" level to "Golden brown marshmallow perfect for S'mores" setting.:flamed:


I LOVE SMORES!!!!!! :) :) :)

I think though... that I was on the receiving end of the flamethrower as opposed to the delivery end :wink:

No worries.

Tyburn
08-26-2009, 04:50 PM
Most people when planning their funeral tend to think about themselves... they pick out songs they like, flowers they like etc... they make it all about them... they think it's their last "hurrah"... I think that's selfish. YOU don't have to. You can think anything you want... it's a big world.. there is room in it for more then one opinion.
Chuck...when you go married...did you let your family choose the songs and stuff?

A funeral is even MORE personal then a Wedding...you also dont take into consideration the fact that not all familes are Christian...supposeing the Christian Dies and the family decide they want a Humanist Funeral?? Would that be okay by you? what about those families with an air of estrangement?

NO

It is my funeral, and it will be planned out and had better go exactly as I want it, because the Funeral is the Finale to my Life. It gives an important START to something new. Its a Journey and it should reflect a Journey, and mine does...when I get back from the gym I shall share with you all, my plans :)

Neezar
08-26-2009, 06:11 PM
It is my funeral, and it will be planned out and had better go exactly as I want it, because the Funeral is the Finale to my Life. It gives an important START to something new. Its a Journey and it should reflect a Journey, and mine does...when I get back from the gym I shall share with you all, my plans :)

No, your death is the finale to this life and the start of your new one. Your actual death is your closure here. Your funeral is closure for the ones you leave behind.

And providing the money to pay for it isn't that bad but I think the loved ones actually benefit from having to make the arrangements. Is it easy? No, but none of life's most important lessons are. Doing that and going thorough the motions forces loved ones to accept and deal with the death. It is actually healthy, IMO.

Neezar
08-26-2009, 06:19 PM
Chuck, I think you are dead on with this one! It is about the family receiving closure.



And I am sure this may not be popular opinion but I would venture to wager that preaching the gospel at funerals could create more buzzards than converts. :ninja:

Neezar
08-26-2009, 06:27 PM
I used to want to be buried just under the roots of a flowering shrubbery bush, without being embalmed to I would become a part of the plant faster. Well, that is illegal. :laugh: So then I wanted to be cremated and planted with some flowers. Well, years ago a close friend died and was cremated. Her funeral felt....well, just weird. Her family had a horrible time with her death and one of the older folks said it was because they never gave her a proper goodbye. She said that was the purpose of the viewing and the funeral. The viewing to see the body and be forced to accept the death. And the funeral to say goodbye. It made sense to me so now I want to have a viewing and then a proper funeral.

adamt
08-26-2009, 07:05 PM
No, your death is the finale to this life and the start of your new one. Your actual death is your closure here. Your funeral is closure for the ones you leave behind.

And providing the money to pay for it isn't that bad but I think the loved ones actually benefit from having to make the arrangements. Is it easy? No, but none of life's most important lessons are. Doing that and going thorough the motions forces loved ones to accept and deal with the death. It is actually healthy, IMO.



+1



and my wife and her mother picked the music for my wedding


and the pastor chose what to preach

Chuck
08-26-2009, 07:33 PM
Chuck...when you go married...did you let your family choose the songs and stuff?

A funeral is even MORE personal then a Wedding...you also dont take into consideration the fact that not all familes are Christian...supposeing the Christian Dies and the family decide they want a Humanist Funeral?? Would that be okay by you? what about those families with an air of estrangement?

NO

It is my funeral, and it will be planned out and had better go exactly as I want it, because the Funeral is the Finale to my Life. It gives an important START to something new. Its a Journey and it should reflect a Journey, and mine does...when I get back from the gym I shall share with you all, my plans :)
Dave I think there is a huge difference all the way around between a wedding and a funeral... poor analogy IMO...

And forgive me but I can't help but laugh when I read your post... nothing illustrate my point of it being selfish then the last part of your post....

I really love this sentence...(emphasis added)

I can just hear you in your accent with your arms crossed and your bottom lip out... you remind me of Violet from Willy Wonka...:tongue0011: :tongue0011:
"NO

It is my funeral, and it will be planned out and had better go exactly as I want it, because the Funeral is the Finale to my Life."

Tyburn
08-26-2009, 07:45 PM
No, your death is the finale to this life and the start of your new one. Your actual death is your closure here. Your funeral is closure for the ones you leave behind.

And providing the money to pay for it isn't that bad but I think the loved ones actually benefit from having to make the arrangements. Is it easy? No, but none of life's most important lessons are. Doing that and going thorough the motions forces loved ones to accept and deal with the death. It is actually healthy, IMO.
There are plenty of things they can do, besides planning a funeral, thats really something that virtually doesnt get planned, its a pre-prepared Service almost.

Besides I'm not as close to the rest of my family as you might think. I cant leave planning a memorial service of my life to them. They wouldnt know where to begin and they wouldnt get it right.

...also...to be fair, the ones I leave behind are unlikely to be very close. The chances are high that the only core family to attend my Funeral will be my two Sisters. You seem to be very short in remembering that as I grow old I shall only get more and more alone.

My Grandparents will die, my Parents will die, my sisters will marry and have Children. So when I die, it will only be "closure" for two Sisters...the rest wont need closure, because they will have already died more then likely.

If I'm really old, the chances are I might outlive a sister, and the other might be too old to travel.

Also...unlike the majority of the rest of you, I dont get to have a "big day" I am barred from marriage, so my Funeral is about the only thing, major liturgical event I CAN plan.

So...with that settled. I'll lay out the Funeral Service for you to see :)

Chuck
08-26-2009, 07:59 PM
So...with that settled. I'll lay out the Funeral Service for you to see :)

Well PTM.... you asked for it.... you're about to get it... hope you're ready!!! :D

Play The Man
08-26-2009, 08:18 PM
Well PTM.... you asked for it.... you're about to get it... hope you're ready!!! :D

Ready! . . . Set! . . . Go!:running:

Tyburn
08-26-2009, 10:28 PM
The Funeral and Service of Thanks Giving For the Life of David Stuart Duff Within The Night Office of Choral Evensong

Requesting a Blue Covered Catafalque Situated at the head of the Nave infront of a lit Paschal Candle. Light wooden Closed-Coffin with cream linning and brass handles to be covered in a Purple Pall, and no Flowers atop. Cortege to include strictly close nuclear family and Martin Brown.

Standard Bearer Party also required

Organ Music Prior to The Service as the Congregation assemble

Suite Gothique by Leon Boellmann

Chorale and Minuet
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYLz_9zuTrE
Prierre and Toccatta
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNTzkb2am-I

Entrance of Cortege to Organ Voluntary The Great Prelude in C Minor by JS Bach
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bYBTg3CV3DQ

Choir To Remain at Church door for The Introit, and to then process with the Purcell Version of the Funerial Sentances

Introit- "Drop, Drop Slow Tears" William Waltons Version
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B0cjF8SFQAk

Drop Slow Tears, and bathe those beauteous feet, which bore from Heaven, the news and Prince of Peace. Cease not wet eyes, his mercy to entreat, to cry for vengence, for sin doth never cease. Drop Drop, slow tears, and in your deep floods drown all my faults and fears, nor let His eye see sin, but through my tears

Funerial Sentances, Henry Purcells Setting
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKNmlXXvl0c

"I am the Ressurection and The Life, whosoever liveth and believeth in me, shall never die. I know that my Redeemer liveth, and that he shall stand at the latter day upon the earth, and though after my skin worms distroy this body, yet in flesh shall I see GOD, who I shall see for myself, and my eyes shall be behold, we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out, the Lord gavest and The Lord hath taken away, blessed be the Name of The Lord. ,Thou knowest, Lord, the secrets of our hearts; shut not thy merciful ears to our prayers; but spare us, Lord most holy, O God most mighty, O holy and merciful Saviour, thou most worthy Judge eternal, suffer us not, at our last hour, for any pains of death, to fall from thee, I heard a voice from Heaven, saying unto me write from henceforth blessed are they which die in the Lord even so saith the Spirit for they rest from their Labours"

Confession and Absolution

DEARLY beloved brethren, the Scripture moveth us, in sundry places, to acknowledge and confess our manifold sins and wickedness; and that we should not dissemble nor cloak them before the face of Almighty God our heavenly Father; but confess them with an humble, lowly, penitent, and obedient heart; to the end that we may obtain forgiveness of the same, by his infinite goodness and mercy. And although we ought, at all times, humbly to acknowledge our sins before God; yet ought we chiefly so to do, when we assemble and meet together to render thanks for the great benefits that we have received at his hands, to set forth his most worthy praise, to hear his most holy Word, and to ask those things which are requisite and necessary, as well for the body as the soul. Wherefore I pray and beseech you, as many as are here present, to accompany me with a pure heart, and humble voice, unto the throne of the heavenly grace, saying after me;


ALMIGHTY and most merciful Father; We have erred, and strayed from thy ways like lost sheep. We have followed too much the devices and desires of our own hearts. We have offended against thy holy laws. We have left undone those things which we ought to have done; And we have done those things which we ought not to have done; And there is no health in us. But thou, O Lord, have mercy upon us, miserable offenders. Spare thou them, O God, who confess their faults. Restore thou them that are penitent; According to thy promises declared unto mankind in Christ Jesu our Lord. And grant, O most merciful Father, for his sake; That we may hereafter live a godly, righteous, and sober life, To the glory of thy holy Name. Amen

ALMIGHTY God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who desireth not the death of a sinner, but rather that he may turn from his wickedness, and live; and hath given power, and commandment, to his Ministers, to declare and pronounce to his people, being penitent, the Absolution and Remission of their sins : He pardoneth and absolveth all them that truly repent, and unfeignedly believe his holy Gospel. Wherefore let us beseech him to grant us true repentance, and his Holy Spirit, that those things may please him, which we do at this present; and that the rest of our life hereafter may be pure, and holy; so that at the last we may come to his eternal joy; through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Choral Responces (any setting will do)

Call: O Lord, open thou our lips.
Responce: And our mouth shall show forth thy praise.


Call: O God, make speed to save us.
Response: O Lord, make haste to help us

Call: Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Ghost;
Responce: As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen.

Call: Praise ye the Lord.
Response: The Lord's Name be praised

Office Hymn: Abide With Me
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9bqrRNowf1Q

Abide with me; fast falls the eventide;
The darkness deepens; Lord with me abide.
When other helpers fail and comforts flee,
Help of the helpless, O abide with me.

Swift to its close ebbs out life's little day;
Earth's joys grow dim; its glories pass away;
Change and decay in all around I see;
O Thou who changest not, abide with me.

I need Thy presence every passing hour.
What but Thy grace can foil the tempter's power?
Who, like Thyself, my guide and stay can be?
Through cloud and sunshine, Lord, abide with me.

I fear no foe, with Thee at hand to bless;
Ills have no weight, and tears no bitterness.
Where is death's sting? Where, grave, thy victory?
I triumph still, if Thou abide with me.

Hold Thou Thy cross before my closing eyes;
Shine through the gloom and point me to the skies.
Heaven's morning breaks, and earth's vain shadows flee;
In life, in death, O Lord, abide with me.

Choir Sing in Chant Cantoris V Decani Psalm 130 De Profundis

1 Out of the depths I cry to you, O LORD;
2 O Lord, hear my voice.
Let your ears be attentive
to my cry for mercy.

3 If you, O LORD, kept a record of sins,
O Lord, who could stand?

4 But with you there is forgiveness;
therefore you are feared.

5 I wait for the LORD, my soul waits,
and in his word I put my hope.

6 My soul waits for the Lord
more than watchmen wait for the morning,
more than watchmen wait for the morning.

7 O Israel, put your hope in the LORD,
for with the LORD is unfailing love
and with him is full redemption.

8 He himself will redeem Israel
from all their sins.

First Lesson (Old Testament)

Deuteronomy Chapter 30:11-end

11 Now what I am commanding you today is not too difficult for you or beyond your reach. 12 It is not up in heaven, so that you have to ask, "Who will ascend into heaven to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?" 13 Nor is it beyond the sea, so that you have to ask, "Who will cross the sea to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?" 14 No, the word is very near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart so you may obey it.
15 See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction. 16 For I command you today to love the LORD your God, to walk in his ways, and to keep his commands, decrees and laws; then you will live and increase, and the LORD your God will bless you in the land you are entering to possess.

17 But if your heart turns away and you are not obedient, and if you are drawn away to bow down to other gods and worship them, 18 I declare to you this day that you will certainly be destroyed. You will not live long in the land you are crossing the Jordan to enter and possess.

19 This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live 20 and that you may love the LORD your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him. For the LORD is your life, and he will give you many years in the land he swore to give to your fathers, Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

Choral Magnificat (Z Randle Stroop version)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Paz32bGCVW4

MY soul doth magnify the Lord : and my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour.
For he hath regarded : the lowliness of his handmaiden.
For behold, from henceforth : all generations shall call me blessed.
For he that is mighty hath magnified me : and holy is his Name.
And his mercy is on them that fear him : throughout all generations.
He hath showed strength with his arm : he hath scattered the proud in the imagination of their hearts.
He hath put down the mighty from their seat : and hath exalted the humble and meek.
He hath filled the hungry with good things : and the rich he hath sent empty away.
He remembering his mercy hath holpen his servant Israel : as he promised to our forefathers, Abraham and his seed, for ever

Second Lesson (Old Testament)

anything from Ecclesiasties :laugh:

Nunc Dimittis (I want the Latin Version by Herbery Howells, but I cant Find it, its extremely difficult to even find on CD

LORD, now lettest thou thy servant depart in peace : according to thy word.
For mine eyes have seen : thy salvation,
Which thou hast prepared : before the face of all people;
To be a light to lighten the Gentiles : and to be the glory of thy people Israel.

Gospel Processional- Karl Jenkins Setting of Hymn Before Action
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X6xhHOI9zdw

The Earth is full of anger
the seas are dark with wrath
the nations in there harness
go up against our path
ere yet we loose the legions
ere yet we draw the blade
Jehovah of the Thunders
Lord GOD of Battles Aid

High lust and froward bearing,
Proud heart, rebellious Pride
Deaf ear and soul uncaring,
We seek Thy mercy now
The sinner that forswore Thee,
The fool that passed Thee by,
Our times are known before Thee
Lord, grant us strength to die


Gospel As Yet Undecided

Gospel Recessional
The tune begins at 5.55 mark

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ehnq7VhBeKc

GOD shall wipe away their tears and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain, praise the Lord.

Anthem (Te Lucis Balfour Gardiners Setting in Latin)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xSNaaP3wafM

Before The Ending of The Day
Creator of The World We pray
That in thy Wonted Favour thou
wouldst be our Gaurd and Keeper now

From all ill fears defend our eyes
from nightly fears and phantasies
tred underfoot our ghostly foe
that no pollution we may know

Oh Father that we ask be done
Through Jesus Christ Thine Only Son
who with the Holy Ghost and Thee
doth live and reign eternally

Surmon/Eulogy

Hymn: The Day Thous Gavest
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjGsHW6XqyU

The day thou gavest lord is ended
the darkness falls at thy behest
to thee our morning hymns asccended
thy praise shall sanctify our rest

we thank ye that thy church unsleeping
while earth rolls onward into light
througout the world the watch is keeping
and rests not now by day or night

so be it lord thy throne shall never
like earths proud empires pass away
thy kingdom stands and grows forever
till all thy creatures own thy sway

Creed

I BELIEVE in God the Father Almighty, Maker of heaven and earth :
And in Jesus Christ his only Son our Lord: Who was conceived by the Holy Ghost, Born of the Virgin Mary: Suffered under Pontius Pilate, Was crucified, dead, and buried: He descended into hell; The third day he rose again from the dead: He ascended into heaven, And sitteth on the right hand of God the Father Almighty: From thence he shall come to judge the quick and the dead.
I believe in the Holy Ghost: The holy Catholick Church; The Communion of Saints: The Forgiveness of sins: The Resurrection of the body, And the Life everlasting. Amen.

Call:The Lord be with you.
Responce:And with thy spirit.
Call: Let us pray.
Lord, have mercy upon us.
Response: Christ, have mercy upon us.
Lord, have mercy upon us.

The Lords Prayer

UR Father, which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy Name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, As it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, As we forgive them that trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, But deliver us from evil. Amen.

Call:O Lord, shew thy mercy upon us.
Answer: And grant us thy salvation.
Call: O Lord, save the Queen.
Answer: And mercifully hear us when we call upon thee.
Call: Endue thy Ministers with righteousness.
Answer: And make thy chosen people joyful.
Call: O Lord, save thy people.
Answer: And bless thine inheritance.
Call: Give peace in our time, O Lord.
Answer: Because there is none other that fighteth for us, but only thou, O God.
Call: O God, make clean our hearts within us.
Answer: And take not thy Holy Spirit from us.

Collect Of Saint Michael The Archangel

O EVERLASTING God, who hast ordained and constituted the services of Angels and men in a wonderful order; Mercifully grant, that as thy holy Angels alway do thee service in heaven, so by thy appointment they may succour and defend us on earth; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

Saint Michael the Archangel,
defend us in battle;
be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray:
and do thou, O Prince of the heavenly host,
by the power of God,
thrust into hell Satan and all the evil spirits
who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls.
Amen


The Even Collect

O GOD, from whom all holy desires, all good counsels, and all just works do proceed; Give unto thy servants that peace which the world cannot give; that both our hearts may be set to obey thy commandments, and also that by thee, we, being defended from the fear of our enemies, may pass our time in rest and quietness; through the merits of Jesus Christ our Saviour. Amen.

The Collect for Aid against all Perils.

LIGHTEN our darkness, we beseech thee, O Lord; and by thy great mercy defend us from all perils and dangers of this night; for the love of thy only Son, our Saviour, Jesus Christ. Amen.

THE grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Ghost, be with us all evermore.

Choral Amen

National Anthem
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tN9EC3Gy6Nk

GOD save our Gracious Queen
Long live our Noble Queen
GOD save the Queen
send her victorious
happy and glorious
long to reign over us
GOD save the Queen

O Lord Our GOD arise
Scatter her eneimes
and make them fall,
confound their politics
frustrate their knavish tricks,
on thee our hopes we fix
GOD save us all

Thy choicest gifts in store
On her be pleased to pour
Long may she reign
May she defend our laws
and ever give us cause
to sing with heart and voice
GOD save the Queen

Cortege Leaves for Graveyard to John Tavaners Song for Athene
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=II_QgNkG5jg

Alleluia. May flights of angels sing thee to thy rest. Remember me O Lord, when you come into your kingdom. Give rest O Lord to your handmaid, who has fallen asleep. The choir of saints have found the well-spring of life, and door of paradise. Life: a shadow and a dream. Weeping at the grave creates the song: Alleluia. Come, enjoy rewards and crowns I have prepared for you.

Congregation Leave for Graveyard to Voluntary Carillon De Longpoint by Vierne
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5rcIL41r5o

Once assembled in Graveyard

String Group and Vocalist Required. Removal of Pall to happen Prior to Burrial

The Committle

Man that is born of a woman hath but a short time to live, and is full of
misery. He cometh up, and is cut down, like a flower; he fleeth as it were a
shadow, and never continueth in one stay.
In the midst of life we are in death: of whom may we seek for succour,
but of thee, O Lord, who for our sins art justly displeased?
Yet, O Lord God most holy, O Lord most mighty, O holy and most mer-
ciful Saviour, deliver us not into the bitter pains of eternal death
Forasmuch as it hath pleased Almighty God to take unto himself the soul
here departed: we therefore commit his body to the
ground; earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust; in sure and certain
hope of the resurrection to eternal life, through our Lord Jesus Christ;
who shall change our mortal body, that it may be like unto his glorious
body, according to the mighty working, whereby he is able to subdue all
things to himself.

As Coffin is lowered a rendition of Didos Lament to be sung

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnzXbx97_UI

When I am layed in earth let my wrongs create no trouble in thy breast. Remember me, but forget my fate

This would be my dream Funeral. :)

Chuck
08-26-2009, 10:38 PM
Dave you obviously put a lot of effort into that so I shall refrain from any silly remarks :wink:

I didn't read it all due to length.... but it looked very well thought out.

Tyburn
08-26-2009, 10:48 PM
Dave you obviously put a lot of effort into that so I shall refrain from any silly remarks :wink:

I didn't read it all due to length.... but it looked very well thought out.
:) its bassically the office of Evensong, with a few added extras :laugh:

For example, The Surmon is in the wrong place for the office, but the right place for a mass, There is one to many readings for an office, but the right ammount for the common worship style of Mass. A lot of the prayers are 1662 Book of Common Prayer, I've swapped the collect of the Day for the Collect and Prayer of Saint Michael because he is my Patron Saint.

I've shortened the comittle because half the funeral senatances were sung by the Choir and dont need to be repeated. The Passages are sacred to me, as is the choice of psalm, and the inclusion of the National Anthem as I am a royalist.

Chuck
08-26-2009, 10:55 PM
:) its bassically the office of Evensong, with a few added extras :laugh:

For example, The Surmon is in the wrong place for the office, but the right place for a mass, There is one to many readings for an office, but the right ammount for the common worship style of Mass. A lot of the prayers are 1662 Book of Common Prayer, I've swapped the collect of the Day for the Collect and Prayer of Saint Michael because he is my Patron Saint.

I've shortened the comittle because half the funeral senatances were sung by the Choir and dont need to be repeated. The Passages are sacred to me, as is the choice of psalm, and the inclusion of the National Anthem as I am a royalist.

Yeah see that's like answering somebody with 3 words of English then 10 minutes of Chinese... you lost me after "It's basically"..... :wink:

Tyburn
08-26-2009, 11:09 PM
Yeah see that's like answering somebody with 3 words of English then 10 minutes of Chinese... you lost me after "It's basically"..... :wink:
okay...i'll go slowly.

After the Reformation a basic Church of England Prayer book was written in 1662...there are several versions each dating from a different year, but this is the one mainly used.

In it are things like orders of services, and regular services. The Office system is a set of regular services run at different points of the day. It also did an order of service for mass

Recently a different order of service for mass has appeared with modern words, its called "common worship" and the order is slightly different.

So ive muddled the order of all three to pick and choose what I want, when I want it, how I want it :laugh:

bradwright
08-26-2009, 11:42 PM
The Funeral and Service of Thanks Giving For the Life of David Stuart Duff Within The Night Office of Choral Evensong

holy crap Dave.....i actually did read the whole thing (no really i did.) and it seems althought you think you may have thought of everything there is one very important thing that you might have over looked....






alarm clocks! ! !...

how else will everyone know when its over ?:unsure-1:

Tyburn
08-26-2009, 11:44 PM
holy crap Dave.....i actually did read the whole thing (no really i did.) and it seems althought you think you may have thought of everything there is one very important thing that you might have over looked....






alarm clocks! ! !...

how else will everyone know when its over ?:unsure-1:
:huh: The service will probably be a little over an hour...after the Dido Lament, it will be obvious that the service is over :)

Chuck
08-26-2009, 11:58 PM
:huh: The service will probably be a little over an hour...after the Dido Lament, it will be obvious that the service is over :)

Duh!!!!! Of course!! Cause you and 4 other people on Earth have the slightest idea what the hell a dido lament is!!!

DO NOT POST 3 PAGES AFTER THIS EXPLAINING WHATEVER THE HECK THAT IS... I'M CONTENT IN MY IGNORANCE!! :laugh:

Tyburn
08-27-2009, 12:02 AM
Duh!!!!! Of course!! Cause you and 4 other people on Earth have the slightest idea what the hell a dido lament is!!!

DO NOT POST 3 PAGES AFTER THIS EXPLAINING WHATEVER THE HECK THAT IS... I'M CONTENT IN MY IGNORANCE!! :laugh:
:angry: you havent read the document at all have you!! its the last track, I copied the lyrics, got you the music, and said it was after the burrial.

Funeral services tend to end after the burrial rather then going of ad infinitum!

GO LOOKEY at the END of what ive written...and then come back and tell me if you like Dido Lament or not...that way I shall know your actually listening to me and not just being mean :angry:

bradwright
08-27-2009, 12:08 AM
Duh!!!!! Of course!! Cause you and 4 other people on Earth have the slightest idea what the hell a dido lament is!!!

DO NOT POST 3 PAGES AFTER THIS EXPLAINING WHATEVER THE HECK THAT IS... I'M CONTENT IN MY IGNORANCE!! :laugh:
come on chuck,even i knew what dido lament is.

Chuck
08-27-2009, 02:26 AM
come on chuck,even i knew what dido lament is.
That leaves 3...........:wink:

Jonlion
08-27-2009, 02:48 AM
I haven't given this too much thought yet, being young and spritely, at 23 but there are a few hymms and passages of the Bible i could think of.

I figure that i wish to be buried and not cremated but the last song to be played i would like to be,

Otis Redding, Sittin at the Dock of the Bay

Tyburn
08-27-2009, 12:03 PM
Duh!!!!! Of course!! Cause you and 4 other people on Earth have the slightest idea what the hell a dido lament is!!!

DO NOT POST 3 PAGES AFTER THIS EXPLAINING WHATEVER THE HECK THAT IS... I'M CONTENT IN MY IGNORANCE!! :laugh:
As Coffin is lowered a rendition of Didos Lament to be sung

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnzXbx97_UI

When I am layed in earth let my wrongs create no trouble in thy breast. Remember me, but forget my fate

Tyburn
08-28-2009, 12:02 PM
I want to squeeze this song in there somewhere also

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omlBeCGLFG4

MattHughesRocks
08-28-2009, 02:43 PM
Dave, there isn't going to be enough time to have everything you want.Your not Princess Di ya know :blink:



I want to squeeze this song in there somewhere also

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omlBeCGLFG4

Miss Foxy
08-28-2009, 03:29 PM
Just make sure my makeup and hair is nice. I hate when the corpse looks orange!?!!! :scared0015:

VCURamFan
08-28-2009, 04:07 PM
Just make sure my makeup and hair is nice. I hate when the corpse looks orange!?!!! :scared0015:You mean Lindsay Lohan isn't really alive????:blink:


I mean, I know her career & prolly her self-worth died a long time ago, but I thought at least biologically speaking...:unsure-1:

Tyburn
08-28-2009, 04:29 PM
Dave, there isn't going to be enough time to have everything you want.Your not Princess Di ya know :blink:
:ashamed:

Miss Foxy
08-28-2009, 07:01 PM
You mean Lindsay Lohan isn't really alive????:blink:


I mean, I know her career & prolly her self-worth died a long time ago, but I thought at least biologically speaking...:unsure-1:
LOL seriously..That girl was pretty at one point in her life.. Drugs, *ex, and lesbos caught up with her! She needs some sleep and food in her life!

Play The Man
08-29-2009, 09:31 PM
Speaking of funerals . . .

http://gatewaypundit.blogspot.com/2009/08/of-course-dems-push-for-obamacare-at.html

Tyburn
08-30-2009, 05:39 PM
Speaking of funerals . . .

http://gatewaypundit.blogspot.com/2009/08/of-course-dems-push-for-obamacare-at.html
:ninja: you never said what you thought of mine...I expect its given you fabulous ideas...no :huh: :laugh:

Play The Man
08-30-2009, 06:09 PM
:ninja: you never said what you thought of mine...I expect its given you fabulous ideas...no :huh: :laugh:

When you make a post with lots of links sometimes I don't follow all the links because of a lack of time. When I have a block of time, I will sit down and give it the time it deserves. I haven't been able to do that yet.

Tyburn
10-06-2013, 06:40 PM
I was looking for this thread coz I lost my copy ahahaha